Maternal Mental Health

Today is all about mothers mental health.

Today can be the reminder everyone needs to wake up and know that a mothers job is NOT easy.

Today is a good day to start taking care of your mental health.

Postpartum depression and anxiety are real. The are not normal, but they are common. Reach out for some help.

You do NOT have to live being sad or angry or resentful.

Military & Motherhood PT.2

Hello and Good afternoon! Today’s military and motherhood blog is a blurb form multiple women and their take on this life style. Please note, names have been changed.

“no one cares, you are out there on your own”- Kate M.

” You better find and know all the instructions, better to just keep them with you because the commands don’t care. You have to protect yourself.” Meliisa F.

“inconsistencies between pregnancy commands. Since nothing is written in black and white, there’s some commands who really do let moms use the year of baby bonding to its full potential (while still working of course) and some who just don’t give a shit.” Whitney R.

“Being an active military first time mom myself with a deployed spouse. We’re expected to be a fighter and be the head of the house hold!” Kay W.

“My advice is to definitely know your regs for pregnancy and motherhood. My first baby I had no clue about a lot of the things you have the right to and I expected my command to know the rules and abide by them. I was in a generator shop throughout my pregnancy and I didnt find out until after that according to the Idustrial Hygiene survey that I shouldn’t be in there while pregnant due to noise hazards. I did my first PRT back exactly 6 months after my c section because my command didnt read the instruction correctly and I almost failed because I didnt know that I didnt have to take it until the following cycle. All the stress of that made my milk supply drop and I quit breastfeeding early because of that and them not accommodating a space at work for me to pump and expecting me to use the head. Dont expect people to fight for you, read everything you can on regs.” Julia P.

“Ppd can start before you have your baby. Talk with youre doctor about, look up the signs and symptoms. Know that body changes happen, and are to be expected. But pain happens too. Back, pelvic, hips… belly bands can help, youre boobs will continue to grow, dont freek out when they/if they leak while pregnant.
Just because youre in the military doesnt mean anything. Print out the instructions on limited work hours, soft shoe chits everything.
” Alex H.

 “Put your foot down with your command when it comes to your children. They aren’t going to care if you’re sick or your kids are sick. Stand up for yourself in a respectful way when it comes to taking care of your needs… and practice while your pregnant!” Kerri A .

I don’t know how to make it clearer about how hard it is being pregnant or a mom in the military. No one cares, no on e stands up for you. We have to bare the weight of the duty and motherhood. Not one person asked how I was doing after either child. No one asked to help or if I needed anything, and every single person knew I was along with my first son.

With Active Duty having such high suicide rates and veterans the same, I would think they would tale mental health more serious yet, they do not.

I hope this give you a bit of insight as to what military and motherhood is like.

Birth Story{s}

Hello! Lets talk birth…

In the comments I’d love to hear your birth stories!

With my first child birth was nothing like i thought it would be. I went in due to swelling, I was a week and half shy of my due date so I expected and IV and to be sent home.

Turns out, my blood pressure was 209/92!! I was immediately told to dress down and that I would be induced that night. Strangely enough I was worried, I was just happy to know I would be done being pregnant soon.

November 22, 2015 I was induced with pitocin. I was 3.5 cm dilated and with in just a couple hours I was at 8cm. They broke my water and I got an epidural. Back labor is no jake y’all. No contraction had bothered me up until damn back labor started. I remember the pain, the puking… the crying…. no joke. Then that epidural started working… peace on earth again.

I did labor alone, my now husband, then boyfriend was deployed and our families scattered across the states. It wasn’t what I expected. I assumed to be in pain, and screaming like you see on TV, but that wasn’t it. I was lucky and had seriously the most amazing nurse ever. She helped me breathe through the contractions and the epidural. Eventually, they said it was time to push… I never felt the urge to push. So that is my advice- if you don’t feel the urge, express that. Long story short, I tore where you should tear and I refused to keep pushing. A few hours went by and my blood pressure began to raise again, and I went in for a cesarean section. Later to find out that’s the only way a baby would be able to come from my body.

1409 [209 pm] my sweet first born came earth side. I unfortunately wasn’t able to hold him due to medications but I got to see his sweet face and that feeling of everything was right again flooded me.

I never felt trauma due to birth, it didn’t happen how I thought it would… but it was perfect.

My second birth was a dream! It was a scheduled c-section for 39 weeks. Making it to 39 weeks was the scary part, but I made it.

It was so simple, and smooth going. Nothing spectacular. My husband, a Veteran finally was with me. We got to the hospital at 830am day of and I was ready to go into the OR within 30 minutes.

They had my husband wait until the spinal was in and curtain was up before he got to come in. I will say I got nervous before right before the spinal and my blood pressure dropped so they had to lay me down… no big deal. From the nurses to the doctors everything was smooth. They brought my husband in and began. 1052am our sweet baby boy was brought earth side. Stubborn as he was to come out, he had a bit of breathing trouble but the Pediatrics were brought down and within minutes life was back to normal again.

With my first son, I was bed bound for 4 days due to my blood pressure. I remember the catheter and not walking… it was rough. After I had my second baby I was walking 4 hours after I had him. YES, even after a cesarean. That’s the most important thing is to walk. A 5 day stay vs a 24 hours stay.

Every birth is different, and emotions are high. No matter how you gave birth, or how you became a momma…. just know- YOU are a momma and you are amazing.