September 11. 19 years ago

Lets stop with the political 9/11 postsūüėä

Its not about us forgetting the cops that aided and now we all hate cops. Its about the lives lost. All the first responders that assisted, nit just the cops. Its about those we lost in the war that followed. Its about remembering the brothers,sisters mothers, fathers, children, aunts, uncles, and friends lost.

Its about remembering the heartache that happened and how people came together.

Its not about muslims. Its not about Democrat vs republicans or if bush knew or not.

Its about a historical event that we lived through. That is now taught as a historical event is history class.

To those we lost, rest in peace. To those who suffer with physical or mental wounds, you are loved and your story matters
To those that helped save others and died, you died a hero. To those that helped save people and are still here, you are a hero.
To those whose lost loved ones, my heart goes out to you because this yearly reminder is not fair.

I was in school. I was in first grade. And i hope nothing like that day and the days that followed ever happen again.

Pride Month 2020

Here is a great pkace to learn about the Stonewall Riots:

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.history.com/.amp/topics/gay-rights/the-stonewall-riots

Why is Pride Month in June?

“The¬†month¬†of¬†June¬†was chosen for¬†LGBT Pride Month¬†to commemorate the Stonewall riots, which occurred at the end of¬†June¬†1969. As a result, many¬†pride¬†events are held during this¬†month¬†to recognize the impact¬†LGBT¬†people have had in the world.”

I sit here not sure what else to say because I have so many feeling when it comes to this subject. For one, no matter what the Bible or your religion says, you honestly have zero reason to dislike the LGBTQ. They do nothing to harm anyone, they are not murders or rapists. They are simply a group of people just trying to live in this judgmental world. They love for love it’s that simple.

There is so many cast out by their families and it is heart breaking to know that happens. Simply over who they love or may love…

If you are a parent to a member of the LGBTQ community I urge you to first love and support them, ask questions if you need to, be respectful, let them know you love them and are here for them.

Helpful Gov site that has some good resources : https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/systemwide/diverse-populations/lgbtq/lgbt-families/

John Hopkins Site: https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/tips-for-parents-of-lgbtq-youth

CDC site for youth: https://www.cdc.gov/lgbthealth/youth-resources.htm

I hope these site help you if you need them. Please share them to help others as well.

Here’s the thing, we have kids. We are the ones responsible for loving them and raising them. They will love who they love and it is up to us parents to let them know they deserve love and its okay. The suicide rate among youth LGBTQ is THREE times higher than that of a heterosexual teen. Suicide is already the 2nd leading cause of teen deaths, lets not increase that.. the help them to see love and support them.

Click the link to learn about the Trevor Project : https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/preventing-suicide/facts-about-suicide/

Love always Wins.

As always Im open to chat. Email or comment below.

Be A Friend-Mental Health

Hey guys, I hope you are finding that even with everything going on it is important to take care of yourself and check in with those you care about.

Not everyone has a lot of free time I understand that… but it take less than 5 minutes to type “hey, how are you?”

Being a distant friend is okay.

Being a friend that has their own problems is okay.

What is not okay, is being a shitty friend and then complain when you get left behind.

I make it a point every week or so to check in with a few people. Make sure they are okay mentally. To let them know hey, Im here.

Sometimes its what saves the day. I know for me when my girls check in on me it helps to keep my on track. Like perfect someone cares, someone wants me to be okay.

Im not sure I guess this is just a reminder to be a decent person. It shouldn’t always be about you. Others need a mental check too.

#BlackLivesMatter

In a world so dark and shitty, I know my babies will grow up and be kind.
My boys are mixed. White. Black and Japanese.
I may not fear like mothers/families because they are so asian and white in complexion.

But I do fear for the world they are growing up in and will have to navigate someday.
This is the time to talk to your kids and explain what is going on. Teach them to love all colors and stand up for what is right.  Teach them to not be colorblind because right now we need to see color and love it.

As a mother, my heart hurts for the black mothers and fathers. I hope this all ends soon. We can not sit by and let more lives be taken.

#community #blacklivesmatter #biracial #standtogether #wecanendthis #endracism

Today’s Affirmation

I always hear people talking about manifesting positivity. They think it and it happens.

Rather, they make it happen. Speaking it into the real world. Thinking it to happen.

Do you do this? I try to, it can be hard at times. But I really believe it helps. Speaking it into manifestation can help keep you focused and keep you on track to your goals…

Do you do this? Does it help you? Let me know below in the comments!

2020 Mental Health

May is half way over already! Time has been flying by this year. How are you holding up? Is this time at home giving you a struggle with mental health? Are you more stressed, or maybe more tired…

Its okay. This isnt a normal life right now. It can be challenging and hard. If you have kids you might be battling a few issues at once. Maybe you dont have kids but are struggling because of a loss of a job.

No matter what is going on, please know there are resources, there are people to help!

Mental disorders; there’s more than just anxiety and depression. OCD is super common, but it can be an issue! Phobias, ugh I have a few. They can make certain tasks harder than need be. Bipolar disorder often times goes misdiagnosed…eating disorders… they may be triggered by stress.

What ever the problem is, know that you deserve to be happy. You deserve to enjoy life. If you are struggling, reach out to me and i can help find the right people to talk to.

You are not alone.

You are loved and cared about.

Maternal Mental Health

Today is all about mothers mental health.

Today can be the reminder everyone needs to wake up and know that a mothers job is NOT easy.

Today is a good day to start taking care of your mental health.

Postpartum depression and anxiety are real. The are not normal, but they are common. Reach out for some help.

You do NOT have to live being sad or angry or resentful.

Bringing In Joy

Joy-

What brings you joy?

What can you do every day to have joyful moments?

For myself its simple….

A workout, coffee, peace during my kids nap time.

Sometimes bringing joy to others is a great way to have joy oursleves.

I suggest send a random card or gift. Check in with people and see how they are doing. Pay for someone behind you in a line or gift to a charity.

Leave a comment below, I’d like to know what brings you joy!

What Would You Ask?

If you have a loved one that has passed away what would you ask them? Who would you talk to again?

For myself its easy to answer- it will always be my dad. I wish I could have him back even if just for an hour.

I’d ask if I’ve made him proud. If he is happy with me for the choices I’ve made.

I’d ask that he “sing” Gold Digger again because that’s always in my mind. I’d ask if he think my oldest son looks like him, because he does. I’d ask what he favorite memory of us would be, and what he felt like his greatest accomplishment was.

I’d ask if he felt pain because that’s my worry- that he felt pain when he died. I’d hear him call me “bug” one last time and say I love you. These are my questions , what would you ask? Family history questions? Personal?