How I met my Spouse

Do you have some love story or maybe a chance meeting changed the rest of your life story?

I have a both kinda….

You see I was 19, and just got stationed in Japan. I was newly out of a shitty relationship.. okay, I went to japan to get out of it.

One night I was out with a few friends and in walks my husband. He comes up to me and starts talking, me having zero intrest kind of blew it off. His friends joined in and started asking what part of the ship I’d be working in, soon to find out… we would all be working together.

Three days later i met my husband out for drinks and the rest is history. You could almost say it was love at first sight… it was love in a bar after knowing each other for 4 days. We’ve had our “breakups” where we said we were no longer together but still spent everyday together… almost 6 years later and 2 kiddos together and here we are.

Still my valentine. No marriage is perfect, but when you find your person, then you overcome it all.

How did you meet your spouse? Let me know in the comments!

My love❤

Mental Health & Pregnancy 1

Boy, when you find out you’re pregnant a million emotions go through your head. Maybe fear, happiness and joy or excitement. So many of us know our life is about to change. We know we are about to have a tiny human to care for and our entire world will change.

We also know the typical bodily changes- belly grows, maybe boobs do to. But what so many people overlook is the mental health portion. During pregnancy, between hormones and emotional changes you have body changes and life changes all at once. It’s not always easy to see and accept every day. Hell, some women struggle with not having the typical belly bumps. POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION can began during pregnancy. It can start to take effect before you ever give birth.

I know for me personally, I had so much anxiety before I had my first son. And yes, seperation anxiety is a real thing.

Did you know that 1 out of 7 woman suffer from postpartum depression? Did you know 70% to 80% of woman will experience some form of baby blues. When we include woman who have miscarried or have experienced a still birth, around 900,000 woman suffer from postpartum depression annually. If you already suffer from anxiety or depression then you are 10-50% higher in risk of suffering from postpartum depression. ⁣

As a womens society page I want to help educate. This is something that find is so over due on. Women are going into pregnancy and not knowing what PPA AND PPD are.

Mental health- is not just teens being dramatic or moms being exhausted. It is a real problem. It is alive and yet sucking the life from so many. I will be posting a few blogs about this soon.

Birth Story{s}

Hello! Lets talk birth…

In the comments I’d love to hear your birth stories!

With my first child birth was nothing like i thought it would be. I went in due to swelling, I was a week and half shy of my due date so I expected and IV and to be sent home.

Turns out, my blood pressure was 209/92!! I was immediately told to dress down and that I would be induced that night. Strangely enough I was worried, I was just happy to know I would be done being pregnant soon.

November 22, 2015 I was induced with pitocin. I was 3.5 cm dilated and with in just a couple hours I was at 8cm. They broke my water and I got an epidural. Back labor is no jake y’all. No contraction had bothered me up until damn back labor started. I remember the pain, the puking… the crying…. no joke. Then that epidural started working… peace on earth again.

I did labor alone, my now husband, then boyfriend was deployed and our families scattered across the states. It wasn’t what I expected. I assumed to be in pain, and screaming like you see on TV, but that wasn’t it. I was lucky and had seriously the most amazing nurse ever. She helped me breathe through the contractions and the epidural. Eventually, they said it was time to push… I never felt the urge to push. So that is my advice- if you don’t feel the urge, express that. Long story short, I tore where you should tear and I refused to keep pushing. A few hours went by and my blood pressure began to raise again, and I went in for a cesarean section. Later to find out that’s the only way a baby would be able to come from my body.

1409 [209 pm] my sweet first born came earth side. I unfortunately wasn’t able to hold him due to medications but I got to see his sweet face and that feeling of everything was right again flooded me.

I never felt trauma due to birth, it didn’t happen how I thought it would… but it was perfect.

My second birth was a dream! It was a scheduled c-section for 39 weeks. Making it to 39 weeks was the scary part, but I made it.

It was so simple, and smooth going. Nothing spectacular. My husband, a Veteran finally was with me. We got to the hospital at 830am day of and I was ready to go into the OR within 30 minutes.

They had my husband wait until the spinal was in and curtain was up before he got to come in. I will say I got nervous before right before the spinal and my blood pressure dropped so they had to lay me down… no big deal. From the nurses to the doctors everything was smooth. They brought my husband in and began. 1052am our sweet baby boy was brought earth side. Stubborn as he was to come out, he had a bit of breathing trouble but the Pediatrics were brought down and within minutes life was back to normal again.

With my first son, I was bed bound for 4 days due to my blood pressure. I remember the catheter and not walking… it was rough. After I had my second baby I was walking 4 hours after I had him. YES, even after a cesarean. That’s the most important thing is to walk. A 5 day stay vs a 24 hours stay.

Every birth is different, and emotions are high. No matter how you gave birth, or how you became a momma…. just know- YOU are a momma and you are amazing.